Robert McLaughlin Bible Ministries
No one ever waited on the Lord and became a loser.
Sunday, February 15, 2004
The second witness against Satan and the fallen angels in the historical phase of the angelic conflict is the invisible hero of the Church-age.
Every believer, whether single, married or divorced, has equal opportunity to become a winner believer and invisible hero.
a) The husband and the wife are both believers.
b) The husband and the wife are both unbelievers.
c) The husband is an unbeliever and the wife is a believer.
d) The husband is a believer and the wife is an unbeliever.
The ultimate in Christian service is the invisible heroship of the winner believer either as a single person or as a believer in the status of marriage.
The great Christian service is fulfilling the spiritual life by which you have a testimony in the greatest trial in all of human history, the angelic conflict.
Marriage of two believers is the proving ground for the commands and duties which demand the highest form of virtue that has ever existed.
The successful Christian marriage is based on the fact that both spouses are positive to doctrine, learn and use the four mechanics of the PPOG and glorify God to the maximum by being winner believers and invisible heroes.
1. The filling of the Holy Spirit.
2. Metabolized Bible doctrine circulating in the soul.
3. The ten problem-solving devices.
4. The power for the execution of the PPOG.
When one spouse fails to use equal opportunity to execute the PPOG, the positive spouse must use the principle of “going it alone.”
1) Believers who are not married and have never been married.
2) Believers who are unmarried and were formerly married.
3) Believers who are married to an unbeliever or negative believer.
If a spouse does depart, you should remain unmarried so that you can go it alone and be a witness for God against Satan without distraction.
ACT 5:29 “We must obey God rather than men.”
It is possible that when the unbelieving spouse sees the fantastic integrity you have from execution of the PPOG, they may even become a believer through the witness of your life.
There is hope for the marriage of a believer and unbeliever succeeding even though it is a violation of the divine mandate not to become unequally yoked to an unbeliever.
A marriage between two believers where one is advancing and one is not, creates the greatest possible antagonism that the OSN can muster, and when the OSN is in control of a negative believer, there is nothing worse.
God has not mandated enslavement in marriage to an unbeliever or negative believer who deserts a positive believer in marriage.
No one ever waited on the Lord and became a loser.
The key is to increase your intake of doctrine because God will protect you through the doctrine in your soul from entering into another bad marriage.
Marriage is not finding the right person; marriage is being the right person.
Those who are single who are waiting for their right man or right woman, 1CO 7:2.
MAT 19:10-12. A eunuch is a person designed by God not to have sex capabilities. This can refer to both male and female.
Marriage was never designed to give us happiness, 1CO 7:32-35.
These conditions include unfaithfulness on the part of the opposite partner or desertion by the opposite partner,
Marriage is dissolved by the death of a spouse, ROM 7:2.
Adultery is a legitimate basis for divorce and remarriage by the innocent party, MAT 19:9.
Desertion is a legitimate basis for divorce and remarriage, 1CO 7:15.
The divorce gimmick is a legitimate basis for divorce and remarriage, DEU 24:1-4.
a. It is always the innocent victim in the adultery case, desertion case, or gimmick case who has the right of remarriage, not the guilty person.
b. If the guilty person remarries, he or she is living in adultery.
Incompatibility is no reason for divorce.
The Scripture is silent on such reasons as: brutality, drunkenness, drug addiction, sexual molestation especially of children, violence, insanity, criminality, suicidal tendencies.
a. People are no better in marriage than they are as people.
b. People who are losers in single status are losers in marriage.
c. People who are winners in single status are winners in marriage.
d. It takes two winners to make a successful marriage, because
each is responsible for his own decisions.
1) There must be the understanding that salvation is by faith and faith alone, therefore, understanding that your partner is a believer.
2) There must be understanding or agreement as to what constitutes the Christian way of life.
3) There must be an understanding to see if you have general compatibility in the field of Bible doctrine.
4) Understanding and agreement as to your local church preference.
a) What are your priorities in life? What are their priorities in life?
b) What is their general mental attitude? Do they boss you around? Do they whine and complain?
c) Do you have agreement in norms and standards? Is there mental and emotional compatibility?
Are you attracted to their appearance, grooming, dress, etc.?
Is there agreement on how money is going to be administered?
There should be a pre-marital agreement so a man cannot touch a woman’s money after marriage.
There should be agreement on whether or not the wife should work.
1) There should be agreement on the desirability of children, if any.
2) There should be agreement on the rearing and training of children.
Avoid marriage where there is substance dependence such as alcohol or drugs, a compulsive gambler, a neurotic person. If you are in single status and have the right of remarriage, do not start looking for a wife or husband.
Rebound converts an adulterous marriage into a purified marriage.
1) Feelings of inadequacy, self-depreciation, loss of self-esteem.
2) Lack of concentration, or the inability to think clearly.
3) Social withdrawal, a lack of interest in pleasurable activities.
4) Irritability, recurrent thoughts of suicide.