Robert McLaughlin Bible Ministries

The most horrible disasters in life cannot destroy true love.

Friday, April 23, 2004

PHI 4:8whatever is lovely – hosa prosphile = whatever areas of your life where personal love exists.

A. Category one love is your personal love toward God.

B. Category two love is toward right man-right woman. It is a relationship between two members of the opposite sex designed for each other by God in eternity past; PRO 18:22; PRO 19:14, GEN 2:18,22, ECC 9:9, 1CO 7:17.

Category two love refers to the body and soul relationship between a right man and a right woman.

1PE 3:7 You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

Unlike category three love, which is love toward friends, category two love is a touching love. It is a coalescence or the merging of soul and body.

Turn to SOL 8

“Put” – suwm = to impress or to set.

Seal – chotham = a ring or a seal that signifies she belongs to a certain man and she is waiting for a certain man.

GEN 38:18 – the woman would carry a ring on a string on her breast over her heart which would symbolize where the area of identification between man and woman really takes place – in the soul.

The right one for your life will fulfill the standards that you have in your soul.

The man will also provide soul stimulation, SOS 1:16-17.

The man must be in the soul of the woman before she surrenders her body to him.

Strong – azah = to protect and to fortify.

She respects him and that motivates her to be faithful.

He respects her and that motivates him to be faithful.

Once a woman has the man that God has designed for her in her soul she will never be satisfied with another man.

“Strong as death” – the man’s love for the woman and her response to that love serves as a fortification and protection for the woman’s soul and body.

Just as the grave robs you from a loved one so jealousy robs you of capacity in relationship with your loved one.

Flashes represent the fact that the responses to each other are hot.

The flame is “from the Lord” not the flesh.

“Many waters” = pressures, disasters, difficulties; including misunderstandings, etc.

Quench – kabah = to extinguish, or to take the heat away.

Rivers overflowing = the most horrible disasters of life which cannot destroy true love.

Keil and Delitzsch – this statement was a direct putdown to Solomon’s many gifts and his riches to this woman speaking in this passage.

True love cannot be found where it does not truly exist and it can not be hidden where it truly does.

This woman in this passage did not try to impress other men, she saved herself for her lover.

The highest natural form of happiness and prosperity in this life is when a man finds his woman.

The principle of divine design or right-man right-woman was designed by God in eternity past.

The exceptions are: the gift of celibacy; the function under the law of supreme sacrifice designed by God for maximum concentration and divine production, as with Jeremiah and Paul, 1CO 9:5; JER 16:2.

There is no benefit in meeting the one that God has designed for you unless you have waited on the Lord in faithfulness to that principle.

When a person comes to their right man or right woman with a lot of previous fornication, the capacity in the body is destroyed, 1CO 6:18.

With God all things are possible and there is healing process that can take place to restore the body but that takes humility, discipline and obedience.

Fornication is accepting a cheap substitute in order to gratify an emotional or biological passion or urge.

Spiritual growth rejects the concept of a frantic search for happiness through adultery.

Divine viewpoint plus the faith-rest technique flees from fornication, 1CO 6:18.

Under phallic apostasy, fornication builds scar tissue on the soul while destroying the physical responses of the body in the field of sex.

Fornication becomes the enemy to the right-man right-woman relationship.

Maximum doctrine in the soul plus abstinence from sex become the basis for maximum pleasure from sex in category-two love.

Blessing in category two love depends on maximum maturity in the spiritual life.

Under category two love, happiness is found in one person, PRO 5:15-23.

This excludes rejecting the following: masturbation, homosexuality or lesbianism, promiscuity or adultery.

Category two love is more important than the circumstances of life and produces an exclusive and perfect happiness which is self-sustaining and partner sustaining, PRO 15:17.

Category two love is protective while the partner is absent, SOS 1:13; SOS 4:6 and while he or she is present,
SOS 2:4.

Category two love illustrates the Lord’s relationship:
With Israel, JER 2:2, 33; EZE 16:8, 23;
With the church, EPH 5:23-33.

Mental attitude sins attack all forms of love, 1JO 5:18; SOS 8:6.

Category two love is the provision of God’s grace, PRO 18:22.
God has set aside time in each life for category two love, ECC 3:8.
Women must be taught to love under category two love, TIT 2:4.

Men instinctively love their children, but women do not. Women must be taught to love their children correctly because they let their emotions get in their way of true love.

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