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What it means to be initiated into the secret of the mystery, Part 22. The mystery behind the Jewish Wedding custom.

Sunday, February 20, 2005

While the chapters and verses are often very well divided, they are not inspired.

Emotional people will be for you one day, and against you the next.

Peter had good intentions, he was very sincere, but very ignorant of doctrine.

Some of you might be hearing a message before you fail so that after your failure these things will be a source of comfort and blessing.

1. He fell asleep at the prayer meeting in Gethsemane, MAT 26:40.

2. He picked up a sword at the way to Gethsemane and he tried to physically defend Jesus Christ, neither of these things in the plan of God, JOH 18:10.

3. He followed TLJC from a distance, MAT 26:58.
4. He denied the Lord 3 times, JOH 18:15-27.
5. He went out and wept bitterly, MAT 26:75.

His motivation was strong, his sincerity was great, but he was a believer operating out of the plan of God, and so he hit bottom.

1. “Do not become discouraged in your heart.”

Someone has to hit you with an imperative or a command to get you up out of the swamp of your self-pity and discouragement and feeling sorry for yourself.

2. Believe in God - believe God when He says something.
3. “And believe also in Me” = believing whatever TLJC has taught.

Dwelling places - mone’ = a permanent place of residence.

This is a reference to the Rapture of the Church or when TLJC comes back in the clouds of the air to take His church or His bride out of the world to forever be with Him.

Isagogics = the historical setting of the passage.
In the analogy, the ultimate meaning of marriage = Christ is the groom and the Church-age believer is the bride.

2CO 11:2 For I am jealous for you with a godly jealousy; for I betrothed you to one husband, that to Christ I might present you as a pure virgin.

REV 19:7 “Let us rejoice and be glad and give the glory to Him, for the marriage of the Lamb has come and His bride [church] has made herself ready.”
REV 21:9 One of the seven angels said to the apostle John, “Come here, I shall show you the bride, the wife of the Lamb.”

a. The Contract
b. The Price
c. The Cup
d. The Departure of the Bridegroom
e. The “Stealing” of the Bride
f. The Bridal Chamber
g. The Marriage Supper

1. The Contract.
Jewish marriages were by contract such as in the manner that we purchase real estate today.

Within the contract, there would be the rules of the waiting period before the bridegroom would come back for his bride and other standard features of a normal matrimonial agreement.

If you want to happy for the rest of your life, never take a pretty woman your wife so from my personal point of view
get an ugly girl to marry you.

GEN 24:51 - Rebecca married a man she never met.

The spiritual analogy - throughout the Gospels “whosoever believes in Him should not perish, but have eternal life.”
ACT 10:34 “I most certainly understand {now} that God is not one to show partiality,”

2. The Price.
Each bride had a price and the prospective bridegroom was expected to pay it.
The “bride price” also served to show that the bridegroom was indeed in love, or at least serious when he made his proposal.

3. The Cup.
The cup was a formality establishing the bride’s answer to the proposal.

2PE 2:1 But false prophets also arose among the people, just as there will also be false teachers among you, who will secretly introduce destructive heresies, even denying the Master who bought them,

4. The Departure.
As soon as the bride drank the cup the bridegroom would make a little speech on the order of, “I go to prepare a place for you.”
He then returned to his father’s house to build her a bridal chamber, a dwelling place, for their honeymoon.

JOH 14:2-3 “In My Father’s house are many dwelling places; if it were not so, I would have told you; for I go to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you to Myself; that where I am, there you may be also.”

The Lord came to our house and brought up a contract which we call the new covenant or New Testament, MAT 26:28.
1PE 1:18-19 knowing that you were not redeemed with perishable things like silver or gold from your futile way of life inherited from your forefathers, but with precious blood, as of a lamb unblemished and spotless, the blood of Christ.

MAT 26:27 And when He had taken a cup and given thanks, He gave it to them, saying, “Drink from it, all of you.”

The bride would spend her time (up to two years), gathering her clothes and accessories and getting her oil lamp ready to travel at night, MAT 25:1-13.

1TH 5:2 For you yourselves know full well that the day of the Lord will come just like a thief in the night.

1TH 4:16 For the Lord Himself will descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel,

As the future bride was waiting for her bridegroom, whenever she went out she kept her veil on signifying that she was spoken for and in effect, keeping her faith in good order and not mixing with the world.

MAT 24:42 Therefore be on the alert, for you do not know which day your Lord is coming.

Meanwhile, at the bridegroom’s father’s house, the young man would build a beautiful bridal chamber as fast as he could.
The bridegroom did not know the wedding day either.

MAT 24:3 As He was sitting on the Mount of Olives, the disciples came to Him privately, saying, “Tell us, when will these things be, and what {will be} the sign of Your coming, and of the end of the age?”
MAT 24:36 But of that day and hour no one knows, not even the angels of heaven, nor the Son, but the Father alone.

5. The “Stealing” of the Bride.
The bride was “stolen” in the sense that the groom would come completely unannounced in the middle of the night and seize her out of her bed.

In order to prevent the young man from literally snatching the girl out of her bed and to give her a few moments to prepare herself, the rules were that when he got close enough to her house to be heard, someone in the wedding party had to shout.

1TH 4:16-17 For the Lord Himself will descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trumpet of God; and the dead in Christ shall rise first. Then we who are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air, and thus we shall always be with the Lord.

6. The Bridal Chamber.
The bride and groom would arrive finally back at the bridal chamber and shut the door behind them.

JOH 3:29 - John the Baptist is called “the friend of the bridegroom, who stands and hears Him.”
LUK 7:28 “I say to you, among those born of women, there is no one greater than John.”

When the marriage was consummated through sexual intercourse, the bridegroom would tell the best man through the door and he would tell the other guests.

ISA 64:6 “all our righteous deeds are like a filthy garment.”

The bridal chamber represents the Judgment Seat of Christ and the place or the honeymoon where the groom removes the bride’s veils and knows her secrets.

1CO 4:5 Therefore do not go on passing judgment before the time, but wait until the Lord comes who will both bring to light the things hidden in the darkness and disclose the motives of men’s hearts; and then each man’s praise will come to him from God.

7. The Marriage Supper.
The reception; a banquet for the new couple.

After the meal the bride and groom would typically leave his father’s house and go to the housing that the groom had arranged for them.
After seven years (the seven days of the wedding) we will return to earth with our Bridegroom.

JOH 14:2-3 “In My Father’s house are many dwelling places; if it were not so, I would have told you; for I go to prepare a place for you.”
And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you to Myself; that where I am, there you may be also.”

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