Robert McLaughlin Bible Ministries

New England Bible Conference 2008. Part 8.

Friday, August 8, 2008

The institution of Christian marriage is one of the most significant arenas in life for the demonstration of the grace and love of God in the angelic conflict.

If you can only learn to take your eyes off of yourself and even your partner and become objective instead of subjective, you would begin to understand, not just the mandates of Christian marriage but the divine purpose behind those mandates.

PHI 1:29 For to you it has been granted for Christ’s sake, not only to believe in Him, but also to suffer for His sake,

One of the most serious mistakes most believers make is when they lose sight of God’s purposes for, not just marriage, but also sex.

So they end up using various alternatives to try to meet those needs on their own.

COL 1:16 For by Him all things were created, both in the heavens and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities – all things have been created by Him and for Him.

One of the divine purposes of marriage is to reflect God’s oneness.
The Trinity is the ultimate example of oneness in relationships.
There are three persons involved in this act of creation.

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In order to understand the oneness that two people can experience in a relationship together we need to understand the God who makes that possible.

We believe God has THREE persons yet is ONE God.
The ONE refers to God’s divine essence and His character and nature.

His divine essence can not be divided between more than one god, otherwise it is not truly the divine essence.

It is not that God is merely characterized by a divine essence; God is the divine essence and the divine essence is God.

The THREE refers to three distinct persons; the persons of the triune God share the divine essence.

The members of the Trinity are distinct (The Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit).
The gods of mythology are distinct beings that act independently.
They each have their own agenda.
They are seen scheming against and fighting with each other.

In contrast, the members of the Trinity are perfectly and deeply interrelated.
In the character and nature of God, there is no isolation, no insulation, no secretiveness, no fear of being transparent to one another.

So while each of the divine persons (Father, Son, and Holy Spirit) fully possesses the same essence (each one can be called God), they share a common, mutually indwelling life together.

We cannot remove one person from this intimate relationship and have the other two remain intact because the members of the Trinity share the same essence and mutually indwell one another.

Even though three distinct wills exist within the Trinity, only one will is ultimately expressed, which indicates the deep unity of the Godhead.

So we could answer the question, “What is God like?” by saying, “a triangle,” but a triangle isn’t personal.

“I am going to create an institution called marriage to give the human race the opportunity to have a relationship not just to know what I am like intellectually but to experience what I am like personally.”

In a marriage relationship, you can experience the sensation and beauty of being two distinct individuals with two distinct wills being united by sharing the same essence, being human and still united together.

COL 3:14 And beyond all these things {put on} love, which is the perfect bond of unity.

God wants the marriage relationship to be the earthly, visible, perceptible model for this ultimate oneness.

God made mankind in such a way that males and females are distinctly different.

So when a man and a woman come together they are two distinctly different people with not only personality differences but gender differences as well.

It takes a commitment to be loyal and faithful to only one person.

By trying to achieve oneness on our own without God whether inside or outside of marriage, we rob ourselves of what we are made for.

Love is the perfect bond of unity.

Procreation is a secondary purpose for sex.

EPH 5:31 For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh.
EPH 5:32 This mystery is great;
EPH 5:31 …..the two shall become one flesh.

Satan had a plan – destroy the institution of marriage in the garden where sex was the ultimate expression of their love for each other.

Grace, that which we don’t earn or deserve is the power to change, the power to be restored, the power to DEU 23:5; GEN 50:20.

Here sex was used as an attempt to keep Jesus Christ from coming into the world.

Sex was designed by God for the man and woman to recover a piece of paradise and the blessings lost by the first man and the first woman.

HEB 11:25 – there are the passing pleasures of sin;

Fornication substitutes the sweetness of the cycle of sexual response with the bitterness of unfulfillment and dissatisfaction and loss and guilt and condemnation.

When a man lets his sexual and physical aggressiveness overflow to others, he is ruining someone else’s right-woman.

“Drink” – shathar = to drink and enjoy, to have your thirst quenched, to banquet, to feast.

There is a definite shock of recognition when a person finds a mate for whom God has designed them.

GEN 2:23 And the man said, “This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.”
GEN 24:65 And she said to the servant, “Who is that man walking in the field to meet us?” And the servant said, “He is my master.” Then she took her veil and covered herself.
Cistern – bowr = a covered well.

There is the great probability for you as a believer for restoration and reconstruction of infirmities in this area, even if you are a married person now and you have failed in the past.
There is instantaneous grace recovery from rebound; then there is continued rehabilitation from perception, metabolization, and application of Bible doctrine.

If a woman keeps trying to splash everyone, she will be a dry well when the right one comes along.
The water which is a reference to the response of the woman is to wait in the well until the right one uncovers and then she meets his thirst.
SOS 4:12 “A garden locked is my sister, {my} bride, A rock garden locked, a spring sealed up.”
Springs – mayanah = your source of satisfaction.
Sex was designed by God for the right man and right woman to recover a piece of paradise and the blessings lost by the first man and the first woman and to experience the unity of divine essence.

The man will tend to use his wife as a vessel for his own self-gratification rather than regarding her needs and carefully having sex with her according to understanding and with self-control.
Usually she had more passion for her first love because that passion was meant to be for her husband who was designed to be her first lover.

Blessed – barak – kal-pass-part = to be blessed and to produce happiness.
The hind is known for its beauty and symmetry and the graceful doe was known as a wild she-goat, very responsive and very passionate.

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