Robert McLaughlin Bible Ministries
Rejection gives the believer the opportunity for self-examination and the reevaluation of his perspective.
Friday, November 14, 2003
JAM 4:7 Submit therefore to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.
Arrogance hates to be rejected just like arrogant people hate to be ignored.
1PE 5:9 But resist him, by being firm in your doctrine,
They think that they are being rejected when in reality they are simply victims of their own insecurities.
The arrogant believer is always defending his own perception of self.
GAL 6:3 For if anyone thinks he is something when he is nothing, he deceives himself.
Fear of rejection, fear of failure, lack of confidence, rejecting the responsibility and the spiritual gift that God has given them, etc.
Your worship is not just coming to the local assembly and sitting down taking notes and learning doctrine. There is also to be the presentation of your body as a living and holy sacrifice.
1CO 10:12 therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall.
Once you put yourself and your self-righteousness on the forward line of defense in your soul, you have completely destroyed your spiritual life.
In some cases, the perception of reality is so distorted that the believer who assumes that he or she is being rejected is actually the rejector.
DEU 32:39 “See now that I, I am He, and there is no God besides Me; it is I who put to death and give life. I have wounded, and it is I who heal;”
HOS 6:1 “Come, let us return to the Lord. For He has torn us, but He will heal us; He has wounded us, but He will bandage us.”
JOB 5:18 For He inflicts pain, and gives relief; He wounds, and his hands also heal.
PSA 38:5 My wounds grow foul and fester. Because of my foolishness,
PSA 109:22 For I am afflicted and needy, and my heart is wounded within me.
Have you even begun to organize the problem solving devices and put “them” on the FLOT line of your soul?
Your spiritual life is the only solution to the problem of rejection.
The believer can be rejected in many areas: by his peers, in friendship, in romance, in marriage, in social life, in business life, or even in church.
First you blame others, then become bitter, vindictive, implacable, revengeful, turn cruel, have self-pity, and become so divorced from reality that you destroy your own spiritual life by reaction to rejection.
This is especially true where intimacy has existed in marriage, romance, friendship, or social life.
You should use impersonal love toward the one who rejects you, along with grace orientation, doctrinal orientation, and sharing the happiness of God.
Iconoclastic arrogance first worships a person, then sees their feet of clay and rejects them.
When a believer is rejected by someone he loves, respects, or admires, there is a tendency to react with pride and arrogance which shatters his life.
Reaction to rejection leads to many of the problems that destroy any possibility of having a spiritual life.
If you do react, stress in the soul from rejection means complete malfunction of the spiritual life.
Reaction can include anything from being hurt to bitterness, or jealousy, or vindictiveness, or implacability, or being filled with self-pity, anger, viciousness or self-fragmentation of the spiritual life.
When the rejected believer reacts through being hurt or self-pity or the sins of arrogance or the sins of the emotional complex, flaws are developed in the soul.
PSA 27:10 Though my mother and my father reject me, the Lord will receive me.
MAT 28:20 “lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age.”
HEB 13:5 I will never desert you, nor will I ever forsake you,
The rejecter is at least coming out from behind a facade of hypocrisy, and at least you are faced with an honest action.
1. Rejection gives the believer the opportunity for self-examination and the reevaluation of his perspective.
2. Rejection gives the believer the opportunity to utilize the problem solving devices of the PPOG, especially those that deal with God.
a. Rebound immediately provides the filling of the Spirit.
b. In the faith-rest drill, you trust God for blessing, claiming the promises of God and using doctrinal rationales.
c. Grace orientation always treats the rejecter in grace.
d. Personal love for God the Father will carry you in the rejection, for it is your motivational virtue in the spiritual life.
e. Your impersonal love for the one who has rejected you, especially if it is unfair, is essential.
f. If you have God’s happiness, you will not react at all, for
perfect happiness will carry you through all problems of life.
g. A personal sense of destiny comes from metabolized doctrine.
h. Occupation with the person of Jesus Christ is the priority solution.