The secret of the mystery. Part 212. The mystery behind Christian marriage. Part 5.
Saturday, April 18, 2007
It is uniquely through the corporation called Christian marriage that the great mystery is unfolding and being revealed, and through marriage God is presenting a devastating blow to Satan’s defense.
It will be an unsuccessful defense because of the quality of witnesses that are being called to the stand before the Supreme Court of heaven and the angelic conflict.
1. The star witness, the Lord Jesus Christ, “the faithful and true witness” –
REV 3:14 And to the messenger of the church in Laodicea write: The Amen, the faithful and true Witness, the Beginning of the creation of God, says this:
2. The individual witnesses, born-again believers who fulfill the spiritual life and glorify God, ACT 1:8.
3. The corporate witness of Christian marriage wherein two believers, a man and a woman, fulfill the three laws of marriage, EPH 4:31-5:33.
The third witness, according to the jurisprudence system of God, is accepted by God, though not necessarily needed.
Legitimate evidence is based on two or three witnesses being interrogated “independently” and agreeing to their testimony.
NUM 35:30 If anyone kills a person, the murderer shall be put to death at the evidence of witnesses, but no person shall be put to death on the testimony of one witness.
DEU 17:6 “On the evidence of two witnesses or three witnesses, he who is to die shall be put to death; he shall not be put to death on the evidence of one witness.”
MAT 18:16 “But if he does not listen to you, take one or two more with you, so that by the mouth of two or three witnesses every fact may be confirmed”
2CO 13:1 This is the third time I am coming to you. Every fact is to be confirmed by the testimony of two or three witnesses.
1TI 5:19 Do not receive an accusation against an elder except on the basis of two or three witnesses.
One of the greatest attacks against marriage happened in Gen 6 in the Nephilim experimentation, in which Satan had his own genetic engineering program going on to destroy the human race.
Before marriage a man will lie awake all night thinking about something you said. After marriage he will fall asleep before you have finished saying it.
Marriage is dissolved by the death of a spouse.
Adultery is a legitimate basis for divorce and remarriage by the innocent party.
If the guilty party remarries that is adultery, and causes the second husband or wife to be living in adultery.
Desertion is a legitimate basis for divorce and remarriage, 1CO 7:15.
The unbelieving husband can be touched by the believing wife, 1PE 3:1.
The divorce gimmick is a legitimate basis for divorce and remarriage.
1. It is always the innocent victim in the adultery case, desertion case, or gimmick case who has the right of remarriage, not the guilty person.
2. If the guilty person remarries, he or she is living in adultery. However, there is a solution to that as well.
The Scripture is silent on such reasons as: brutality, drunkenness, drug addiction, sexual molestation especially of children, violence, insanity, criminality, suicidal tendencies.
Any time the person is in a life threatening situation they have the right of divorce.
If the guilty party remarries or dies, then the victim has the right to remarry.
a) The elapse of time in single status to recover from the horrible experience by growing in grace.
b) If the guilty party dies or remarries, then the marriage is officially dissolved for remarriage by the innocent party.
c) The guilty party is not permitted to remarry, MAT 5:32.
If you have sinned and have been the guilty party – any sin or failure regarding marriage or divorce on your part before you became a believer was blotted out at the moment of salvation, ISA 43:25; PSA 103:12; 1JO 1:7.
You cannot rectify past failure in marriage and divorce by leaving your present spouse in a second, third, or fourth marriage and go back to a former spouse.
The solution to living in an adulterous marriage is the grace of God, which begins with rebound and logistical grace, and continues through spiritual growth and the attainment of spiritual adulthood.
Do not try to make adjustments for your past failures in marriage, divorce and remarriage, but remain in your present status quo.
If you are still alive after any failure in the sphere of marriage, divorce, and remarriage, then remember that God still has a purpose for your life – to glorify Him.
1. People are no better in marriage than they are as people.
2. People who are losers in single status are losers in marriage.
3. People who are winners in single status are winners in marriage.
4. It takes two winners to make a successful marriage, because each is responsible for his own decisions and modus operandi.
5. A good marriage is not designed for happiness, but for virtue.
6. Marriage is not designed for happiness, because happiness comes from sharing the perfect happiness of God (+H).
7. Marriage is not designed for happiness, but for winners, because winners have both understanding and use of the problem-solving devices.
a. There must be spiritual compatibility.
b. Soul compatibility.
1TI 2:11-12 Let a woman quietly receive instruction with entire submissiveness. But I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet.
b. Soul compatibility.
c. Physical compatibility. Are you attracted to their appearance, grooming, dress, etc.?
d. Economic compatibility.
e. Family compatibility.
f. Stability compatibility.
GEN 4:1 And Adam knew Eve his wife; and she conceived,
Marriage is designed for character, virtue, integrity, and the problem-solving devices.
If husbands and wives apply the standards of the three laws of marriage the testing is passed and marriage becomes a place of the glorification of the Lord Jesus Christ and phenomenal contentment.
Marriage is an arena and a forum for the expression of virtue.
If they refuse the divine standards, the problem-solving devices for believers they enter into bitterness, especially on the part of the man.
Bitterness escalates into implacability, then implacability into hatred and malice and vindictiveness and in some cases even violence.
Husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church, and that does not involve bringing her past the dictates of her conscience in the Holy Spirit.
The head of every man is Christ and the husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the church, and part of Christ’s love is not summoning the church past the dictates of their conscience in the Holy Spirit.
When the husband follows the prescription of loving his wife with the quality of virtue love with which Christ loved the church and when the wife sees the authority of the husband as an umbrella over her and respects the husband – and when both parties of marriage fulfill the law of forgiveness – that marriage has the potential to become a corporate witness for the prosecution of Satan and his appeal trial which is coetaneous with human history.