Sex Between Right Man – Right Woman is a Form of Recognition of the Greatness of God and Grace!


March 28, 2021

(22) Meet the next Defense Mechanism found in the “Moti Maris of Memphis motherhood manifested by a sexual desire for lust after the opposite sex of the male and female believer.

Focusing in on what Solomon said in the book of Ecclesiastes as the sex athlete he was known for from the eight different experiments that he tried.

We will approach this subject concerning the wisdom of Solomon by noting the different conclusions that he came to from the tests of the eight experiments that he came to with his divine conclusions.

Sex was designed by God for right man-right woman relationship and it was designed for that which was recreation, pleasure and enjoyment.

Now, in Ecc 7, verses 23-29, wisdom reveals the fact that intimate relationships are compelling but often not satisfying at all for the believer.

Let me get this straight finally; Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines. His favorite wife was known as Moti Maris of Memphis, on the Mount of the Temple or Mount Moriah, though the one he wanted more than any other was Queen of Sheba, who he never really got.

For we read in 1KI 11:3  And he had seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines, and his wives turned his heart away.

1KI 11:4   For it came about when Solomon was old, his wives turned his heart away after other gods; and his heart was not wholly devoted to the Lord his God, as the heart of David his father had been.

Little did people know that that Solomon disobeyed the Lord because the Lord had said to all the Israeli kings in DEU 17:14   “When you enter the land which the Lord your God gives you, and you possess it and live in it, and you say, ‘I will set a king over me like all the nations who are around me,’

Then notice the corrected translation next in DEU 17:17  “Neither shall he multiply wives for himself, lest his heart turn away; nor shall he greatly increase silver and gold for himself.

So, you can see why Solomon thought he was a sexual athlete and none of that caused him to gain any sense of wisdom.

For example, Solomon had an edification complex, he had a soul structure which was built upon doctrine but he reverted from that and one of the things which he rejected was the doctrine of right man right woman.

The doctrine of right man–right woman is a doctrine which I have taught often and clearly, and if you have any trouble with it, it’s your problem or your loss.

It is taught very clearly in Gen 2:18-25, Ecc 9:9, 1Co 7:17, Pro 18:22, 19:12, Pro 5, 31, just to name a few.

For example, in Gen 2:18-25 we have the first mention principle of right man and right woman.

Under the first mention principle this is the first time God brought the woman to the man without sin or a sin nature.

The second passage that teaches right man and right woman is in Ecc 9:9, where Solomon mentions finding your right man and right woman as a gift from God to both a believer an unbeliever and as a gift from God.

This is when he says in Ecc 9:9  Enjoy your life with the woman whom you love all the days of your passing life which God has given to you under the sun in this life for this [your right man or right woman] is your reward in life, and enjoy your job in which you have labored under the sun.

  1. Your life from God
    2. Your Job as your niche in life
    3. Your right man-or right woman

Here is the third verse written by the apostle Paul in concerning marriage; 1CO 7:17   Only, as the Lord has assigned to each one, as God has called each, in this manner let him walk. And thus I direct in all the churches.

Next is the fourth passage in PRO 18:22  He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor or grace from the Lord.

Then we could name the fifth passage in Pro 5, where King David teaches Solomon about finding his right woman.

Finally, we could quote the sixth passage in Pro 31 where Bathsheba teaches Solomon about finding his right woman.

And when it says “A woman will encompass a man” or “a woman will live a life that surrounds her man” it is like like the moon revolving around which means her life we have a phrase that says “a woman will live a life that surrounds her man.”

The verb encompass is ‎cabab (saw-bab’); which means “to revolve, to surround, to encompass, to circle about, or to live a life that surrounds her right man as the moon revolves around the stars to make a life that is dedicated to surrounding her right man.”

In REV 12:1  And a great sign appeared in heaven [this is a reference to Abraham and Sarah and the beginning of the Jewish race through circumcision as well as the fulfillment of the Cross]: a woman [Israel] clothed with the sun [a reference to Jacob], and the moon [a reference to the wives of Jacob and his mistresses who reflect him as the moon reflects the sun, the twelve patriarchs came from Jacob’s two wives and two mistresses] under her feet [Israel], and on her head a crown of twelve stars [the twelve patriarchs].

Since the day that Satan discovered that Israel was to be the source of the incarnate Christ, Israel has been the target for the devil’s hatred and antagonism.

REV 12:2   and she [Israel, a reference to the virgin pregnancy as well as the many different Jewish Holocausts] was with child ; and she cried out [this is a reference to the greatest holocaust of all which will take place at the end of the Tribulation involving the third demon assault army of Rev 9], being in labor and in pain to give birth [this means that she wanted to be delivered from this anti-Semitism].

REV 12:3  And another sign appeared in heaven: and behold, a great red dragon [that’s Stan] having seven heads and ten horns or control of seven heads and ten horns, which is the revived Roman empire of the Tribulation plus ecumenical religion], and on his heads were seven diadems or crowns.

REV 12:4   And his tail [Satan’s power] swept away a third of the stars of heaven [this is a reference to the prehistoric revolution in Heaven when one third of the angels in Heaven followed Satan in the prehistoric angelic conflict], and [He, God] threw them to the earth [this will happen in the middle of the Tribulation]. And the dragon [Satan] stood before the woman [the virgin Mary] who was about to give birth [This was the thing that Satan tried so hard to stop, anticipating the virgin birth of Christ], so that when she gave birth he [Satan] might devour or destroy her child.

REV 12:5  And she [the woman, Mary] gave birth to a son, a male child [our Lord Jesus Christ in hypostatic union], who is to rule all the nations with a rod of iron [that’s during the Millennium when TLJC even uses capital punishment]; and her child [Jesus Christ] was caught up to God [the ascension] and to His throne [that’s the session].

For the word ekklesia (ek-klay-see’-ah), translated the church, means the called out ones.

REV 12:6  And the woman [that is true Israel, the Jews who become saved during the Tribulation period] fled into the wilderness where she had a place prepared by God [for refuge], so that there she might be nourished for one thousand two hundred and sixty days.

For the word ekklesia (ek-klay-see’-ah), translated the church, means the called out ones.

REV 12:6  And the woman [that is true Israel, the Jews who become saved during the Tribulation period] fled into the wilderness where she had a place prepared by God [for refuge], so that there she might be nourished for one thousand two hundred and sixty days.

Since the day that Satan discovered that Israel was to be the source of the incarnate Christ, Israel has been the target for the devil’s hatred and antagonism.

For the word ekklesia (ek-klay-see’-ah), translated the church, means the called out ones.

No matter how you slice Solomon had every potentiality for happiness and yet he was constantly bitter against the female species.

  1. He began with the first experimentation which was Anthropocentric Academic Speculation or regarding humans as the central element of the universe.

He wasn’t bitter toward the first experimentation, his conclusion was that his search led him to vanity and chasing after wind, Ecc 1:14-18.

  1. Then in ECC 2, we had the experiment of seeking happiness in pleasure, or in Ecc 2:1-11, the eat, drink and be merry type of attitude.

And Solomon wasn’t bitter after his second experiment of seeking happiness in pleasure, he just said in ECC 2:11 that it was vanity and chasing  after wind and there was no profit in it and all it did was to produce a bitter attitude.

  1. The third experiment was the All in the Family experiment where Solomon concluded that he was going to have children and keep everything in the family……..but he also failed and experienced more of a bitter attitude.

He wasn’t bitter after his third experiment, he just said in ECC 2:17, that he hated life because everything was futility and chasing after wind.

  1. This brought him to experiment number 4, the Philosophy of Time Orientation or having an organized life.

He wasn’t bitter after experiment number 4, his conclusion was simply stated in ECC 3:9  What profit is there to the worker from that in which he toils?

He works and works and even profits but he said; “What profits are there from simply working and working” when life without love and respect are not rewarding and sex has no meaning or purpose.

  1. Then Solomon takes experiment number 5, he went looking for happiness from money, wealth and prosperity.

He wasn’t bitter after experiment number 5, He just said in ECC 5:10  He who loves money will not be satisfied with money, nor he who loves abundance {with its} income. This too is vanity.

He said ECC 5:10   He who loves money will not be satisfied with money, nor he who loves abundance with its income. This too is vanity.

ECC 5:11   When good things increase, those [bills and needs] who consume them increase. So what is the advantage to their owners except to look on?

In ECC 7:12   For wisdom is protection just as money is protection. But the advantage of knowledge is that wisdom preserves the lives of its possessors.

Solomon finally concluded that money cannot give you happiness, only wisdom can because wisdom is greater than money since wisdom or metabolized doctrine can solve all the problems whereas sex cannot.

  1. His sixth experiment that he thought would give him happiness was building a reputation.

He wasn’t bitter after his sixth experiment, He just said in ECC 6:9 it was futility and a striving after wind.

However, when we get to the seventh experiment, the experiment of seeking happiness in sex and love, Solomon is officially filled with bitterness with the results of this one.

First of all, let me remind you ladies especially of something very important concerning the male species and that is that men have a problem or a weakness with bitterness, especially when it comes to Sex.

So much so that they are commanded in COL 3:19  Do not be bitter against them [gune – your woman].

Now, I want you to note a very important principle, only one of these experiments were ever found in the Garden of Eden in the original creation of man.

I am going to try and prove to you why Solomon’s seventh experiment was the only experiment that caused him to become bitter.

Now, I believe that this all goes back to the Garden of Eden when man was originally placed here on earth in a perfect environment with one thing missing in his life……..his right woman.

In the first six experiments, intimacy with people was not involved, especially intimacy with a wife or your right woman.

In the first experiment Anthropocentric Academic Speculation, there’s no intimacy involved, there’s no letting down your guard.

In his second test, seeking happiness in pleasure, or eat, drink and be merry, there’s no intimacy involved, there’s no privacy that must be protected.

The third test was the All in the Family experiment, there may be a closeness between parents and children but there’s no intimacy involved, there’s no confidentiality involved.

In the fourth test, the Philosophy of Time Orientation, there’s no intimacy involved, there’s no sharing of things which you don’t like to share with just anyone.

In experiment number 5, looking for happiness from money, wealth and prosperity, there’s no intimacy involved, there’s no trust at stake.

In experiment number 6, seeking happiness from a reputation, there’s no intimacy involved, there’s no communication of secrets that you don’t want anyone else to know.

However,  Solomon’s seventh experiment, the experiment of seeking happiness in sex, inevitable intimacy is involved especially when a man lets down his guard and shares with the woman such deep secrets that he would not share with anyone else.

Therefore, if the woman ever betrays his trust or does not protect his privacy or his friendship and deepest secrets, it is very easy for him to become bitter.

Solomon didn’t become bitter because of lack of sex, he became bitter because he could never find that one woman whom he could confide in and enter into intimacy with.

In fact, according to the seventh test, it seems as though throughout his entire lifetime, he only had one male friend but he never found the woman of his dreams.

Or if he did, too much fornicating destroyed his ability to recognize the right one.

Now, remember that originally, when man was placed in the garden in perfect environment, God designed man to be happy and for happiness to exist, Solomon would have to make sure that the happiness was based on character and virtue.

For example we read in GEN 2:18  Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.”

By the way, the phrase “I will make” is the Qal imperfect of asah which describes something God keeps on doing, even still today.

The word “helper” is the noun `eezer which means someone to aid the man, someone to help him, to assist, someone to respond to him.

They were not ashamed even though they were naked.

However, this does not refer to the nakedness of the body only, there were no other people on earth to hide their nakedness from, so what’s the big deal?

The word for “ashamed” is the hithpolel future of buwsh which means to be ashamed, embarrassed, disappointed, dissatisfied, with the soul as well as the body.

So, the original relationship that God designed for the man and the woman was to be one where they would not be ashamed to share things with one another.

And the reason is because their souls were attached before their body.

Solomon disarmed himself with many women in his search for
happiness and his quest for the right one for his life.

And, as he did this, he found out that many of the women that he confided in tried to trap him….they tricked him…..they lied to him…..which is one of the quickest ways to destroy trust in a relationship.

Now, because finding your right man or right woman is one of the three gifts God has made available for mankind, Satan has tried to destroy the principle of right man, right woman.

There are three prominent grace gifts from Christ to man delineated in Scripture, and these are the order in which they occur in the human race:

  1. Right woman, He built her, Pro 18:22, 19:13‑14.
    b.  Salvation, He did it.
    c.  Doctrine, He thought it, 1Co 2:16.

In all of human history, right woman is the oldest human gift, for Christ brought the woman to the man, Gen 2:18.

So, because the right man – right woman relationship is one of the three gifts God has made available to mankind, Satan has tried to destroy the principle of right man, right woman.

Solomon is saying that he has discovered that women were a snare and that their mind was filled with little nets that they toss over you like you’re a butterfly.

And when he makes that statement, he is not necessarily insulting the ladies he is merely showing that after having more sex than anyone in history, that sex isn’t all that fulfilling.

And furthermore, through fornication he has destroyed his ability to recognize the one woman the Lord had made or designed just for him.

By the way, if this has happened to you there is a healing process that can take place in your soul, so that you can recover the ability to recognize the man or woman God has designed for you.

“will be captured” is the niphil imperfect of lakadh which is jilaaked meaning to captured, to be caught, to be trapped.

ECC 7:26  And I kept on discovering more bitter than death the woman who is a trap, and whose right lobe has destructive allurements and her hands are chains. One who is pleasing to God will be delivered from her, but the reversionistic carnal believer will be captured by her.

The only time that Solomon ever had any kind of relationship with a human being that was bona fide one was in category three, a total non-touching soul friendship.

So again ECC 7:28 says what my soul is still seeking I have not found. I have found one man [to satisfy his soul which means category three love, friendship] among a thousand, but I have not found a woman among all these.

Prin-It wasn’t his body that was doing the seeking, he didn’t have a libido problem, it was his soul that was seeking for something.

Prin-Your body may be very gratifying to someone you freely give it away to but it will never satisfy their soul unless it is right man right woman……or what God has designed.

Prin: Don’t be so anxious in a moment of libido to pass around something that Jesus Christ gave you to fulfill one man or one woman.

And remember what we noted recently, outside of spiritual things, your right man or right woman is the greatest happiness you can have right now.

And the relationship with the man was not based upon sex, it was based upon integrity within the other person, male or female.

Not found” is the qal perfect of matsa again which means he never did discover his right woman.

“found” again is the qal perfect of matsa and it means that here is the doctrine which Solomon learned in reversion recovery.

However, let’s begin with the phrase “God made” which is the Qal perfect of asah which has to do with man’s soul related to his personality…….it looks like this in the Hebrew `aasaah
haa-‘Elohiym.

Now, when God creates the soul, the Hebrew verb barah is used which means that when God makes something out of the soul……asah is used.

Barah is the essence of the soul, the mentality, the self-consciousness, the emotion, the norms and standards, the volition.

Asah is the personality related to the soul……and in love it’s the personality related to the soul.

Not by having the honeymoon first, the identification is in the soul first, not the body.

Asah means that a personality comes through from the soul.

The word for men is haaaadaam which is mankind, male and female, man and woman.

Upright comes from the Hebrew word jashar which has the following meanings, upright, just, righteous and right.

PSA 51:5   Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity, And in sin my mother conceived me.

PSA 58:3  The wicked are estranged from the womb; These who speak lies go astray from birth.

We know that man and woman have not been made righteous and just and upright by God because we are told that man is born in sin and has a sin nature.

However, God is making man and woman right for each other or right man right woman is a doctrine taught throughout the Bible and therefore it fits under the principle of categorical doctrine.

Prin-Sex between right man right woman is a form of recognition of the greatness of God and the greatness of grace.

The verb “sought” is the piel perfect of baqash which is biqshuw which means to seek diligently or persistently.

“devices” is the noun chis-ha-bo-nowt meaning perversions or distortions.

When a woman sees her role, her person, her experiences, even the calamities that have impacted her life in the eyes of God objectively and with stability, that person’s world comes together….and that woman can handle it.

He looked over on the table and he saw a newspaper which had on the front page a recent moon shot of the world.

And he shook up the pieces and said; “Here son, figure this out and tape the world all back together and when you get that world all back together come back and we’ll play!”

“Mike, dad said, how did you do that?”

Mike said, “Well, it was easy daddy, you see on the other side was a large picture of a man’s face, and when you get the man put together, the world…….comes together!”

All we have to do is make ourselves available to the wisdom of God and we will be able to put ourselves together through His grace.

When you put the person together, the world comes together.

On the other hand, when he says I have found one man among a thousand, he is referring to his soul looking for an intimate friendship and he found one who fulfilled that desire.

His physical or biological urge for sex was satisfied, but his soul was not.

The point is that Solomon’s soul did the seeking and it was his soul that was never satisfied.

It is a happiness that is phenomenal!

A happiness that was the first gift God ever gave man and woman.

A happiness that was filled with contentment.

So he says in ECC 7:28  what my soul is still seeking I have not found. I have found one man [the insinuation is an honorable man and here it refers to category three love, friendship] among a thousand [I have discovered], but I have not found a woman [one honorable woman] among all these.

He tried to find his right woman but he never did find her!

He found soul compatibility with one person, male or female, category three love which is friendship and soul compatibility.

So he says……I have found one man among a thousand,
 
Out of a thousand he finally found one man who was truly his friend……

Now, that’s alright, that’s a part of happiness but it is absolutely nothing compared to right man right woman…..nothing!

ECC 7:28  what my soul is still seeking I have not found. I have found one man [category three love, friendship] among a thousand [I have discovered], but I have not found a woman  [an ishshah] among all these.

So the corrected translation says ECC 7:28  what my soul is still seeking I have not found. I have found one man [category three] among a thousand [I have discovered], but I have not found a woman among all these.

ECC 7:29  “Behold, I have found only this [now here is the doctrine which Solomon learned in reversion recovery]

The same reversion recovery which is stated in Ecc 12.

Solomon never found his right woman because he was too long in reversionism……

However, in reversion recovery, he did discover some principles of doctrine which are important for us to understand.

ECC 7:29  “Behold, I have found only this [I didn’t find my right woman but I did find out or I discovered this], that God made men [not upright but…….something else that we must note.]

And that’s what Solomon says here…..he doesn’t say barah, he’s referring to the personality that comes from the soul which is category three love.

How do you think you’re going to find your right woman or your right man?

The identification can be made through the soul……

This means that you’re going to love the personality of the one God has designed just for you!

Now, no one can see the essence of another soul.

You can’t even see your own essence.

It’s there……but all you can really see what is derived or what is distilled from the essence of the soul which is personality.

And this doesn’t mean to have a pleasing personality, I’m talking about personality in it’s true sense which is manifestation of soul essence.

ECC 7:29  “Behold, I have found only this, that God has made [asah] men

So the correct translation says ECC 7:29  “Behold, I have found only this, that God has made mankind [the human race] man and woman……

Now, we need to define and explain the word upright!

Now, there’s only one of these definitions which can accurately fit into our translation correctly…….let me show you what I mean!

If the word for man means the human race, man and woman, then the following translations cannot be true.

ECC 7:29  “Behold, I have found only this, that God has made mankind upright
 
That’s not true, you and I were not made upright, we were born in sin……..as David said in Psa 51:5.

Then in ECC 7:29  “Behold, I have found only this, that God has made man and woman uprightbut they have sought out many devices.”
 

ECC 7:29  “Behold, I have found only this, that God has made man and woman right for each other, but they have sought out many devices.”
 

Solomon is saying that mankind, men and women, have sought diligently to pervert what God has provided.

ECC 7:29  “Behold, I have found only this, that God has made man and woman right for each other, but they have sought [a frantic search for happiness] out many devices”

This refers to the perversions of God’s grace in the design of right man right woman!

I love the story of five year old Mike, who saw his dad’s car drive in the driveway…..so late the headlights were on!

He met him at the door.

And dad was dragging himself through the doorway.

He was so tired he could hardly make it to the recliner.

He finally slumped down and pulled his tie lose and Mike jumped up on his lap and said….“Hi dad, let’s play.”

Dad thought, “Oh no!

He was at a lost to know quite what to do with his five year old son however, he did know that he didn’t feel like playing!

In fact, it was in color….and he thought, now here’s my chance.

“Get some scissors Mike!”

Mike went and got some scissors and dad said, “Now look son, we’re going to play a game.”

So he starting cutting out the world into about 20 or 30 pieces.

So Mike takes off, 6 minutes later…..“I’m back dad, here’s the world, let’s play!”

That’s what Solomon is saying in a much wiser way!

When you put the man together, your world comes together!

And God will take care of the world.