Robert McLaughlin Bible Ministries

Unrealistic expectations and role model arrogance.

Sunday, September 26, 2004

PHI 4:9 These things [doctrinal principles] also you have learned [manthano – learned from a teacher under strict academic discipline] and received [or accepted through metabolization of doctrine] and having heard[under discipline]

“To hear” – “having heard” – aor-act-ind – akouo = to hear, listen, or concentrate under someone’s authority or to accept the authority of the doctrine being taught.

1. Unrealistic expectation which inevitably produces frustrations that distract from Bible doctrine and destroy the true focus of the Christian life, which is occupation with Christ – not people.

PSA 118:9 It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in princes.
PSA 146:3 Do not trust in princes, in mortal man, in whom there is no deliverance.
JER 17:5 Thus says the Lord, “Cursed is the man who trusts in mankind and makes flesh his strength, and whose heart turns away from the Lord.”

JOB 11:12 And an idiot will become intelligent when the foal of a wild donkey is born a man.
ISA 2:22 Stop regarding man, whose breath {of life} is in his nostrils; for why should he be esteemed?
PSA 62:9 Men of low degree are only vanity, and men of rank are a lie; in the balances they go up; they are together lighter than breath.

Unrealistic expectations destroy all human relationships, whether it is your relationship with your pastor-teacher as his student, or friendship, romance, or marriage.

2. Role model arrogance is another problem that can hinder you from hearing the word of God properly.

Society and people in general have assigned certain customary functions to certain activities in life, to politicians, ministers, husbands, wives, teachers, public servants, military personnel, and the successful and famous.

When someone lives in role model arrogance, when anyone departs from his assigned role by them, he is condemned, rejected, criticized, and maligned.

JOH 8:7 He straightened up, and said to them, “He who is without sin among you, let him {be the} first to throw a stone at her.”

In role model arrogance, the individual excuses himself for his own sins and failures, but condemns the role model for the identical sins and failures.

Role model arrogance causes believers to fail because of lack of impersonal love for all mankind and lack of occupation with Christ.
Role model arrogance ignores the basic doctrine that all believers sin after salvation and continue to have a sin nature.

In role model arrogance and the feet of clay syndrome, you cannot impose impossible standards on others while you ignore the fact that you too have sinned, possibly committing worse sins than those which you condemn in the role model.

PHI 4:9 These things also you have learned and received having heard under discipline

What is important is not the lifestyle of your pastor-teacher, but does he emphasize the mystery doctrine of the Church-age and the execution of the PPOG.

Role model arrogance distracts congregations from doctrine by emphasizing the personality of the pastor or the evangelist rather than the message.
With Bible doctrine as the number one priority in your life, you learn to love God the Father, and you learn to insert the virtue of impersonal love into human relationships.

From knowledge of Bible doctrine you find your true role model who is perfect – our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

The purpose of the PPOG for the Church-age is to create invisible heroes, mature believers who are winners in life; not people who are involved in unrealistic expectations and role model arrogance.

a. The intensified problem of the double standard, people justify their own sins while condemning the sins of others.
b. The intensified problem of legalistic arrogance is a device used to condemn others.
c. Iconoclastic arrogance is a major reason for believers not continuing in the PPOG.

Iconoclasm is the function of destroying an icon or an idol.
Iconoclastic arrogance = subjective preoccupation with other people.
Iconoclastic arrogance demonstrates the fact that people are divorced from reality because they will not take the responsibility for their own decisions.

1. An excessive admiration or personal love creates an idol out of a person.
2. This is followed by the idol showing their feet of clay (doing something wrong or revealing the fact that they possess an OSN).

3. When the idol does something wrong (real or imagined), there is a reaction by those who created the idol.
4. Iconoclastic arrogance seeks to destroy the image the person has created.

The demonstration of the Spirit and of power from a teacher of doctrine is the manifestation of the filling of the Holy Spirit and the accuracy of the doctrine taught.

The illusion created by arrogance becomes the delusion destroyed by arrogance.

The idol of perfection created by this arrogance can be a spiritual image, a personality image, a hero image, a romantic image, or a beautiful image.

Iconoclastic arrogance destroys friendship, romance, marriage, business, professional relationships, Christian fellowship, and a spiritual leader of some kind.

The sooner a congregation has attained impersonal love, the sooner it will overlook idiosyncrasies, mannerisms, habits, and failures of those in spiritual leadership.

To receive from whomever is your right pastor-teacher, you need to beware of the feet of clay syndrome, iconoclastic arrogance, unrealistic expectation, and role model arrogance.

GEN 12:13-19 – Abraham willfully lied to deceive the Pharaoh and protect his own life.

GEN 26:7 – he committed the same sin as his father Abraham, he lived in fear of losing his life and therefore he willfully lied and told the men of Gerah that Rebekah was not his wife but his sister.

GEN 25:31-33 – he was naturally crafty and sly and stole the birthright from Esau.
GEN 27:18-29 – his master deception over his father Isaac, and yet God was faithful to him.

The Lord changed his name to Israel = “a prince with God.”
When the Lord appears in the O.T. He says, “I am the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.”

Moses – EXO 2:12 – he willfully killed a man with his bare hands.
He made excuses to the Lord, EXO 3:11, saying that he was not fit to be used by the Lord.

JUD 6:13 – he said, “I cannot go because the Lord has forsaken Israel.”
JUD 6:15 – he then said, “I am not fit for the job.”
JUD 8:24-27 – he foolishly makes a golden ephod which becomes a snare to Israel.

JUD 14:1-3 – he kept associating with evil people, basically wild and perverted women.
He was very spiritual at times, JUD 13:25,
JUD 15:14, yet he was under the power of carnal lust.

He had a deep desire for prostitutes and then finally for a ravishing woman named Delilah.
JUD 15:4 – he was childish in his plans, yet courageous in battle, JUD 15:11-14.

1SA 21:1-10 – David willfully sinned and told a lie and the result of his lie was that an entire city was wiped out (city of Nob)
He “faked madness” and made the enemy believe he was crazy, and as a result hundreds died, 1SA 2:11-18.
David failed in his responsibility as the King, 2SA 11:1.

While he was in Jerusalem, 2SA 11:2-27, he ended up in certain “shocking” sins.
He committed adultery, He got a man drunk, He committed murder, And he willfully lied.

2SA 6:1-13 – he did not honor the word of God.
1Ch 21 – David rejected the promises of God and even questioned the faithfulness of God.
We have his failure to forgive completely his son Absalom.

David’s son, Solomon, born from the woman he murdered for, Bathsheba.
He lived an excessive luxurious lifestyle, 1KI 4:22-23.
He married all kinds of ungodly women, 1KI 11:1-2.
He lived in excessive sensuality, 1KI 11:3.
He even sanctioned idolatry, 1KI 11:4-7.

1Ki 19 – Elijah just had a tremendous victory and then he runs from the threat of a woman.
Jonah – the reluctant self-centered, filled-with-hatred missionary.

These realistic portraits of the great heroes of the faith teach us to expect perfection out of no human being – including ourselves.
Perfection is found only in heaven and in the person of the perfect God-man, the Lord Jesus.

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