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New England Bible Conference 2008. Part 5. Thursday AM.
Thursday, August 7, 2008
THE SINGLE LIFE AND DATING
Part One: I Did it My Way
JOH 1:1
In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.
JOH 15:5
“I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me and I in him, he bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing.”
GEN 2:18
Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.”
Dating.
A social engagement between members of the opposite sex in which each puts the best foot forward.
1PE 5:6-7
Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you at the proper time, casting all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you.
PSA 127:1
Unless the Lord builds the house, They labor in vain who build it…
1CO 3:11
For no man can lay a foundation other than the one which is laid, which is Jesus Christ.
PHI 2:5
Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus
PRO 23:7
For as he thinks within himself, so he is.
1CO 2:16
For WHO HAS KNOWN THE MIND OF THE LORD, THAT HE WILL INSTRUCT HIM? But we have the mind of Christ.
GEN 2:21-22
So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that place. The Lord God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man.
2CO 11:3
But I am afraid that, as the serpent deceived Eve by his craftiness, your minds will be led astray from the simplicity and purity of devotion to Christ.
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.
PRO 3:5-6
Trust in the Lord with all your heart And do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight.
1TH 4:3
For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality…
JOH 15:5
“I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me and I in him, he bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing.”
Personal love for another member of the human race is not commanded in the Bible.
Though we are not commanded to have personal loves for people, we are commanded to have personal love for God and if we don’t we will be under a curse.
Learning to love God will solve the problems of loneliness. The Church is not a lonely hearts club. It is a place where you learn to love God so you can enjoy your alone time.
In romance, a false exterior is usually put up that veil the true individual. The real you is who you are when you’re alone.
REV 2:4 ‘But I have this against you, that you have left your first love.
Dating is optional. It is your choice if you want to get involved in romance.
The believer who is trained in doctrine knows that personal love is a creator of problems in life.
The problems that are created in personal love can only be solved with the problem solving device of impersonal unconditional love.
Of the 40 things are the indwelling of God the HS, making your body the temple of God, a human spirit, and the filling of God the HS so that you can metabolize Bible doctrine.
With consistent PMA/BD the baby believer learns the character and nature of God and loves God with a personal love.
At SSE, the major step in the spiritual life, the believer will have IUL, however in its infancy it will be weak and wobbly.
God has a plan to remove this arrogance in the only way it can be done; through suffering.
Providential preventative suffering comes in four categories: People testing, thought testing, system testing and disaster testing. The first three need IUL to be passed.
After passing PPS the believer reaches the second stage of spiritual adulthood which is SA. At this stage the believer has maximum love for God and maximum IUL for all.
The first stage is attraction. This first stage is that characteristic of a person which elicits interest or attention, hence, an attractive quality in another person.
Attraction is the blind stage of romance. A person often sets aside, ignores, or is blinded to the flaws or potential flaws in the object of romance. You don’t see the real person.